Picassoul
My father used to cut out
little pieces of my soul
and stick them back
in odd places
where they didn’t belong
as my mother watched
and when I cried for her
she’d turn away
until after awhile
I stopped crying for her
while my father
kept cutting out
little pieces of my soul
and sticking them back
in odd places
where they didn’t belong
until I was like
a Picasso painting
and now I look in the mirror
and try to figure out
where all those pieces
were supposed to go
and maybe one day
I’ll see the picture the way
it should have been
before it was cubed
or maybe ———
I should just paint a new picture.
By Linda Hanson Denmark – 2003
I had previously posted this poem on Facebook as my own “Me too!” statement since the abuse came in many forms including sexual abuse. However, the theme of this poem can also be applied to my autistic self and probably many others like me.
When my autism diagnosis was made, my brain signals showed a lot of scrambling, where a signal was sent from one part of the brain to another and then to yet another and finally some part of my brain that would not normally process that info would handle it. The cognitive tests showed results all over the chart, from four percent in visual stamina to straight across 100% in the part of my brain I use in processing language from brain to hand. Not from brain to mouth though!
Other areas in the cognitive testing showed impairment. I am unable to determine emotion from facial expressions of others. I have problems with auditory retention, which means that I retain only pieces of a conversation and often can’t make sense of it. If I get the same information in written format, I retain it very well, to the point where I could ace a test by reading the textbook the night before the test.
Before others can accept autism and show some understanding, we first have to accept ourselves. After I was diagnosed I initially felt a bit of dismay mixed with relief at finally having an answer. I began researching and reading everything I could find concerning autism and now have a whole shelf of autism books and continue to read all I can find online as well. What I began to notice in myself was an acceptance happening. I have to accept that I have these weak points and strong points and work with the materials I have available in order to paint that new picture.